Managing Resources and Finding Success | Linda Gerber
Mindsets to overcome fear, avoid burnout and find purpose
Full Episode: https://youtu.be/bSOqOrwXQBk
ABOUT LINDA GERBER
Today on BEST MEDICINE we have my dearest sister, Linda Gerber on the show!
As the show is officially opening it's second month I wanted to take this chance to get a bit more personal about my ambitions for the show and some of my other career goals.
If there are any youngsters listening up you might be thinking "why's an old guy like you still have career goals?" - It's a good question!
My sister Linda is a spectacular success and speaking coach. And on this episode I thought we'd do something a bit different...
I received some preliminary coaching live on air so you can all see what it's like to receive coaching (and if you like what you see, please email me at email@example.com and I'll refer you to Linda).
In our coaching Linda helped me get clear about some of my fears and roadblocks in launching this venture that I'm launching. I've mentioned it a few times in other episodes: I'm starting a cash only telemedicine clinic with help from the fabulous Paradigm Innovations.
As I get older and maybe an inkling wiser, I realize that money, fame and titles are not as appealing as they once were. I value my family, my health and my integrity.
So my career goals look a lot more like finding ways to pass on wisdom, help other people share their important ideas, and finding ways to right some past wrongs.
One of those wrongs is the level of beaurocracy and expense that is involved in treating people in the medical system. Hence, the cash only clinic.
I value Linda's feedback (and yours) on my mindset heading into this venture.
MANAGING RESOURCES TO FOCUS ON WHATS IMPORTANT
At the top of the conversation Linda notes that there's a big difference between seeing a therapist and a coach.
In my position, I'm starting a new business as well as this podcast. But I'm having some anxieties and stresses as I figure out what exactly it is I've wrapped myself up in.
I'm having a tremendous amount of fun and I believe in the work I'm doing - maybe more than I have in my whole life - but it's still new and that makes it a bit startling.
It's like this - a therapist would go through my life story, personal myth and dreams to find out what it is about new ventures that scare me. That's valuable.
After all, if I were secretly starting this business out of some unresolved psychological issue, that would certainly be important to know before I work on it for several years.
Therapists are concerned with resolving trauma for the pure health of the patient. A coach, however, is concerned with the achievement of worthy goals with minimal required sacrifice.
So a coach might acknowledge that starting a new business will be incredibly taxing on my mental health nd physical health.
I'll miss workouts, family time, and probably inject a bit more financial risk into my life than is necessary. All of these can cause or be caused by psychological factors.
But a coach would look past those factors and say "But the goal is worth attaining. The world would be better off if this business existed, if this goal were met. And you have selected yourself as the vessel to do it, so I'm going to make sure you get across that finish line, even if it's gonna cost you a lot."
There's a large overlap between mental health and success.
After all, success makes people happy. Attaining goals, striving towards something great, mastering a craft - these are things that bring us happiness and meaning. But of course career anxieties, long hours, and unforeseen stressors are a price we pay for that success, which are bad for our mental health.
Linda has helped me see her modality of coaching in alignment with the bio-psycho-social medical model that I love to talk about on the show.
If I'm exerting mental health resources by taking on these negative stressors, and I'm not going to STOP doing that because it's for the greater good of achieving the longer term goal, then I'm going to need to carefully manage my remaining resources.
I think this is great advice for anybody in any field. We all make our choices, but we should try and cover our butts a bit with those choices.
Many artists will sacrifice the physical and financial security of money, but achieve a greater spiritual fulfilment in the mastery of their craft.
But in the meantime, if they can maintain a fitness regimen, not take on extra debts, and have meaningful relationships, then the tremendous cost of becoming a great artist will be counter balanced by good habits.
This does NOT lead to ideal health in the way a therapist or medical professional might advise. But it's a interesting way to balance a need to preserve our health with the need to get things done that are good for the world.